I agree that rape is horrible, and the fact that some people don't take it seriously and blame others is the reason I think why I think it is taboo for others to know about it.

However, the reaction does depend on the person.

I personally know a victim of sexual assault, and it screwed them up for life. Even then, they were thankful that this happened to them instead of them being violently assaulted, like losing a limb.

It's also false that victims of murder and violent attacks never get blamed, they get blamed all the time, just maybe not to the same level. It's because we live in a blame game society, and a ass-kissing one toward the criminal. When someone is killed, stabbed to death etc; People always wonder what the victim did to offset the criminal, what mental illness did the criminal have? Mental illnesses and broken homes are always blamed on the behavior of a murderer/violent attacker. I've never heard a case where it was not.

I'm not saying that rape is in any way lesser than torture or that I don't understand what rape victims go through. My main point is that it's dangerous to make an assumption on somebody's feelings. Someone could be stabbed to near death and very well may think their attack is much worse than sexual assault; they could have been severely hemophobic beforehand or suffered a different case. To have the belief that rape is worse, may make them feel like their trauma is not as valuable at all. The belief that rape is worse can also be offensive to some rape victims. Some people do recover from rape and move on (I'm not saying this is the case for everyone) and to make it seem that rape makes you forever broken is offensive to them; it's basically telling them they are better off dead now. It also makes it impossible for anyone to recover from rape if we constantly make rape seem super horrible to this extent that we're pushing victims back down into the dark place of reminding them that they're broken. I'm not saying you think this way, but it's the belief I picked up from certain commenters that made me make this comment. I do think it's great that more people are caring about rape victims, realizing it's wrong to blame them, and wanting to help, but by caring about rape to such a high level where we're assuming how -all- victims must feel really hurts more people than it helps.

That was more my point, I would defend any victim since I don't know their story, or their feelings. I don't agree with rape jokes myself, I don't make them or like them because I find them offensive and in bad taste ):

No problem!

You're welcome.